Happy Next Number of Year! It's 2023!!!
The other day I was in conversation with a brilliant woman I can’t wait to tell you more about. She said, “you know the New Year really doesn’t start until February?” I did not. I still haven’t looked into this too much, but I know it gave me some major relief.
I’m turning 40 this year; I have goals and plans for much improvement, especially regarding my health and business…I don’t feel like starting today…or tomorrow, and that’s OK.
Statistics show that around 70% of people fail at their resolution come mid-February…
As soon as we feel like we’ve failed..we give up. So let’s throw that out this year, ok?
My suggestion? Aim to be better, and plan to improve, but start when you’re ready.
If you start something just because it’s day 1 of some ancient calendar based on the name of a Roman deity and then feel like a failure because you weren’t actually ready to move into a new version of yourself on the first day of January (with the football and the friends and the family and then the getting back to the reality of the rest of the month), that’s not failing. That’s you enjoying this season. That’s good.
Just for good measure, let’s talk about this deity who has us all feeling like failures by month 2 of the year and see if there’s something we can learn.
“He” was named Janus (hence January) and was apparently two-faced, which signified looking forward to a new beginning as well as looking backward for reflection and resolution.
LOOKING BACKWARD WITH RESOLUTION
We've been doing it wrong.
A resolution isn’t about making a new rule; it’s about accepting and reflecting on the past. It’s about being thankful for the lessons and resolving the year and the experiences for what it was. That’s so different than what we’ve been led to believe. It’s beautiful if you ask me.
his year, let’s think differently. Take time and enjoy the rest of your holidays. Take the month to consider the things you want to do in the next few months, year, 5 years…
Goals are good, but failure is off the table.
Resolve 2022, try to find the lessons in the year's hardships, and give thanks for the beauty there. The start of a new year is a lovely time to set goals and decide to improve; it’s a date we can use to keep track of things, but that’s all it is, and you can choose to grow and improve at any point, on any day, during any month.
You’re never failing if you’re learning and moving forward. Resolve what 2022 was and know moving forward that 2023 will have no failures, only growth and more lessons. Here are some thoughts on how to spend this month of resolution and move into your purpose as this new year unfolds.
Happy everything, my friends. It's just a new year, but every day let's strive to resolve the past and do better for ourselves and others.
Love you, mean it.
P.S. My daily devotional, written by Marshawn Evans, gave me much inspiration for today, in addition to my deep conversations with Jennifer Pilates.
They are two strong and incredible women who, while very different, are still very much the same and have brought so much to my life.
If you love devotionals, I highly suggest This One: One Hundred Days of Believing Bigger.
Marshawn is a woman of deep faith; she's insightful and has led me in so many ways through my walk with God; that said...I have been told by many as I have shared this tool that has served even those who do not share in her specific beliefs.
You can find Jennifer Pilates on all social channels as well as through her podcast, Empowered Within.
Have a beautiful day, and thank you for sharing in this life with me!